Burn ships, not bridges

jNotes

The phrase “don’t burn bridges” originates from a military tactic where armies would build bridges to cross rivers, then burn said bridges behind them; either to prevent retreat (forcing troops to fight onward) or to stop enemies from following.

“When your army has crossed the border, you should burn your boats and bridges, in order to make it clear to everybody that you have no hankering after home.”
― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

This tactic of “no going back” can also be linked to Julius Caesar, Alexander the Great, Tariq Ibn Zyad, and of course the Spanish Conquistador Hernán “burn the ships” Cortés a la my last post. Although an effective motivator, I doubt the soldiers were happy their leadership team chose this over the promise of a victory pizza party or the implementation of Casual Fridays. While these generals were literally burning bridges, they were figuratively burning them with their troops. What happens to the relationship after the crisis?

The phrase has evolved to mean: “don’t destroy relationships or opportunities you might need in the future”.

When making major life or career decisions, “burning the ships” can be an effective way to stop procrastination and puts you “all in” on the path you chose. However, what happens when that burning ship floats under a bridge and you start spreading flames all over everything in your life? In Summary:

BURN THE SHIPS = Commitment = 🙂
BURNING BRIDGES = Potentially harming others = 🙁

Here are some ideas to retain connections when making changes in your life:

  • Be clear and respectful
    Explain your decisions with honesty without blame or criticism. Express appreciation for past opportunities or relationships.
  • Give Proper Notice
    If you’re leaving a job, give notice and offer to help with the transition.
  • Stay professional
    Even if you’re frustrated, avoid venting or speaking negatively.
  • Leave doors open intentionally
    Let people know you’re open to future connections, partnerships, or referrals.
  • Do handovers cleanly and document
    Finish strong. Ensure others can pick up where you left off. This shows reliability and respect.
  • Don’t publicize the split
    My dudes, avoid the dramatic announcements on social media. Keep the focus on what you’re moving toward, not what you’re leaving behind.

It’s hard to commit, it’s easy to blame. Burn ships, not bridges.